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What I constantly emphasize in my trainings is that it's just we're dancing. Your audience does not see the strategy. The target market sees a piece of art, the fluidity, the dancing, the movement.

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I understand the step-by-step actions. I've examined them for years. In those moments where we're functioning with each other with the child or the system, we are dancing with them. See, there is fluidness and there is a dance that is established in synchronicity and connection and all those wonderful things that you likewise instruct about.

There is a procedural step, leading, number two, number 3. Right. I do believe that if we utilize therapy simply like as a technique, it will not have the very same influence due to the fact that it's still carried forward through an embodied mind that is capable of mentalization, that we're able to hold the child's mind in mind in those moments of resonance as we do EMDR therapy.

And for that, we additionally have to do our very own work, which I have gotten a great deal of EMDR therapy. I require to know what it really feels to see those darkness within me.

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And I know you do that also, Lisa. So when I have considered my own experience with EMDR, what's usually landed for me is this idea of I have a method and it depends on me to bring it to life. That's just how I speak about it for myself.

It's a method. It's a building drawing of a residence. Yes. Someone has to construct it? Someone needs to bring life to it. Someone has to bring it forth. And I have actually commonly thought that that's where so a lot of the magic and the recovery happens is the method which the therapist brings it to life in a hip to means with the customer.

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It's such a gorgeous pointer of our role in the healing process and our duty in the healing procedure. Additionally. One of the points that I typically inform my trainees is that we can't promote change unless we can see something that our customers can know they're not able to see.

We have to be prepared and able to see something that they can not fairly. And when I hear you speaking about we have to go into our own winters, I also love that language you're using. We have to go into our own winter seasons. What comes to mind is this idea of if I don't understand that my winter season can become summer season, after that I'm not mosting likely to have certainty when I'm with my client that their winter months can become summer.

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And I won't have the ability to hold a brand-new opportunity for my client since I haven't been via it, to be able to claim it's feasible, the assimilation, the improvement is possible since I do not recognize. I would love for you to speak more of that around specialists, perhaps even getting embeded the tale with the clients or I don't know.

As therapists is our very own duty to recognize what it really feels like to move through something and what that can bring to our customers. Yeah, I love that the analogy and how went from winters to you took it to the following level. As we experience also the spring and the summertime, but we likewise discover regarding the fall.

I assume that we're better equipped to go along with one more human mind, symbolized mind, to do recognize to go via that trip. And she speaks about mythology, which I'm fascinated by, that I simply love tales.

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Yet as we go through the abyss, then she stated, which I love, this, the false self is going to begin to transform and after that the authentic self emerges. Therefore through those trips, death and regeneration, after that we locate that we are and eventually the ones of us that travel back and forth, after that we find out to come with others.

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And after that we can now see in the abyss. We can see with the darkness and afterwards we can direct others, right. To welcome that because that becomes part of the recovery. And so in EMDR treatment, we welcome those shadows. We welcome it's not simply a memory as a cognitive verbal narrative, yet we accept the experiences from a symbolized viewpoint.

I indicate, there are moments, despite having my grown-up customers, where I feel like so recognized to be because minute and to be able to go along with an additional human being, to head to those deep degrees, those deep locations of our human existence, right. Those layers that are so deep, where you know that because minute something was transformed.

Those are deep minutes that you obtain goosebumps and you know, wow, something occurred here. Right? Yeah. I indicate, I'm even having feeling, listening and assessing what you're stating. I'm feeling the power of what you're talking regarding in my own remembrance of those minutes. And I recognize for me, it's why I decided to end up being a therapist, because I desired to be of service to a person.